Men and women always seek for respect in the relationship but when this is raised it puts some people on the defensive because they think it signals submitting to authority, or an imbalance of power in a relationship.
This in itself is a problem with today’s relationships because without respect, there can be no love.
We need to respect each other as humans, as partners, if we want any shot at a thriving and healthy relationship.
Mutual respect is the foundation of other integral parts of a partnership, such as trust, independence, and love.
So, an uncomfortable fact for the men is that women will not submit to you if they don’t respect yourself.
How can you value someone’s opinions, thoughts, or even their very existence if you don’t respect them? You just…can’t, and you won’t.
So here are few traits men need to possess to earn them a sense of respect in their relationship.
1. Exhibiting a healthy sense of masculinity
There is a misconception in today’s society that women no longer want a man to “be the man” in a relationship think all masculinity is toxic. But the truth is that every woman be it highly successful, educated, self-sufficient wants a man who will stand strong in a healthy sense of masculinity in order to balance out her feminine strength. The key word here is balance not exerting authority or succumbing. Healthy masculinity is secure, caring, nurturing, protective, and calm. It is not chaotic, or violent, or abusive because women want to feel safe emotionally and physically.
2. Effective and genuine communication
Here we are faced with the fact that technology has connected us more than ever before. While this has its advantages, it has also presented newfound challenges. We are slowly losing the ability to fully connect with another person in real life and have deep and meaningful conversations required in order to build a relationship.
It’s much easier to say things while typing on a keyboard when you’re not facing the immediate reaction which you can only get from a face-to-face interaction
Men who put in genuine and proactive effort to communicate with and learn about the woman they’re interested in will immediately spark her attention. If this is truly part of your identity and the way you conduct yourself, you’ll be able to utilise it to build a foundation with her as you learn more about each other, open up more fully, and come together as a team.
The more you can learn about someone, the less likely you are to judge them and the more likely you are to respect them, as well.
3. Integrity
In modern dating, it’s difficult to find men who say things and follow them through. This big complaint has left a negative impression on women about most men.
Ideally, someone who is always telling you things that turn out to be false, or that they never follow through on, will easily lose your respect.
It’s become too easy for many men to type in a few words or make a false promise over text or direct message that they never really intend to follow through with making this whole relationship thing like a game to see what we can get away with.
It is important for men to keep their word because it goes a long way to show how reliable they are. When they say they will be there, you know that they will and this kind of act earns them respect not just from someone they are dating.
4. Sense Of Humor
If you plan entering into a lifelong relationship with someone, you’re going to be tackling those serious matters together. Many parts of life can be serious and the last thing anyone wants is to be with a partner who makes the things more difficult.
When it comes to keeping a woman’s attention, manners are important, good looks are a bonus, but humor is a must. Having a sense of humor is not about making jokes at inappropriate times. It’s about finding levity in the heavier parts of life and handling them with grace and charm.
Knowing that life is simply too short to be serious all of the time. Take things seriously when you must, do your best to enjoy the rest and be with someone who makes things easier.
5. Listen To Understand
I talked about effective communication earlier but I believe that genuinely listening to and hearing someone out is a point all its own. Why is this so important?
People want (need) to be seen, heard, and loved for who they truly are. Too many people just want to talk at you. They want to convince you how great they are, when in reality they are probably just trying to convince themselves. Not most people will sit and truly absorb what you have to say, understand, and thoughtfully respond. So it’s good you learn and develop the act of listening because it will pay off big in any area of life.
6. Be Vulnerable
When you talk about vulnerability in a relationship, most men see this as a sign of weakness or being exposed. However, to others vulnerability can appear as strength, because you are willing to face and be honest about the truth of yourself in an open and honest way.
When you are willing to be vulnerable in a relationship, it shows a more human side of you to the person you’re with. Though, the internal struggle is understandable, as our instincts are telling us to protect ourselves from any potential external harm.
Definitely, this is why trust is so important, because you both need to be able to earn each other’s trust fully in order to really feel comfortable being vulnerable.
When you do reach that point, she will respect you more for it, not less.
7. Be yourself
We all know men are built to chase. Men instinctively want to pursue women and win their love and affection. Some men will fake their identity or standards in order to get a woman’s attention not knowing he is lowering his own self worth both in his eyes and hers, while simultaneously lying to her.
In reality, he cannot maintain this for the rest of his life, so eventually the truth comes out. The entire thing falls apart because he failed to be himself by presenting who he is not. No one can respect you if they don’t really know who you are. The best thing any of us can do is to maintain our boundaries, standards, and sense of self regardless of our relationship status.
8. Give undivided attention
Next time you are in public, look around and you will see people looking at their phones. It doesn’t matter who they are with or who else is around, they are probably scrolling, or posting, or dividing their attention in different directions. Most people are guilty of this.
Men when you are out with someone and you want to make them feel truly valued, special, and respected, give them your undivided attention. Believe me, women observe this.
Note: Ladies It doesn’t matter how many of these traits a man has. If he does not respect you in return, you need to cut ties and go find someone who does.
